I grew up watching her on screen in
dusty theatres that showed re-runs of black and white films. I sat in
awe as her perfection filled the screen, her beauty so natural, her
acting so effortless that often, I quite forgot I was only watching a
film unfold. Along with Meena Kumari and Nutan, Waheeda Rehman remains
one of my favourite heroines of all time. So when I heard that she'd
finally agreed to a book about her life, I was thrilled. The author was
Nasreen Munni Kabir, whose Conversations with Lata was a wonderful addition to my collection of movie lore. I'd also previously liked her Talking Films, a conversation with Javed Akhtar. So I promptly put the book on 'my list of books to order before I go to India'.
It was already waiting for me when I got to my sister's flat. First impression? 'That's it?'
It was a slim volume, and perhaps I'd expected it to be more in the
format of the Lata Mangeshkar book. A week later, I was flying down to
my hometown to bring my parents back to Bombay with me, so I happily
took the book along, and finished it during the flight.
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We are eager to know our
idols; we want them to speak to us in words that we have already
scripted for them. Like our gods, we cast our idols too in our own
image. An entire generation of film-goers have placed Waheeda Rehman on a
pedestal - she is the elusive Chaudhvin ka Chand, the earthy Gulabo and the defiant Rosie; she is the worldly Hirabai, the principled Chameli and the doomed Shanti.
And so we are eager to know more, not just about Waheeda Rehman, the actress, the person, but also the world she inhabited. Conversations with Waheeda Rehman
is a window to that world. Written in the Q&A format that
author Nasreen Munni Kabir has perfected through her earlier books (the
name of the book argues a singular lack of originality, though), the
latter gives the gracious actress a platform to shed some light on her
life and career.
And
reading this memoir - for make no mistake, that is what it is -
brings back memories. Of not just Waheeda, but the cinema of her time.
One word of warning, though: if you expect to read about the Guru
Dutt-Waheeda Rehman romance, you are going to be disappointed. Neither
does she go in for the big reveal - there's no salacious gossip about
her co-stars, no big secrets about her own life. The
actress, fiercely circumspect always, only lets the veil drop this far,
no further. Yet, what she does talk about, she does with an honesty that
is endearing. And expected.
Journalists
have always known that getting Waheeda Rehman to sit down for an
interview is akin to one of the labours of Hercules. Despite her very
public career, the actress has maintained the distance between her
public persona and her private life. In fact, though she had agreed to
talk to Munni Kabir for the latter's 1989 documentary on Guru Dutt, and
the book on Lata Mangeshkar in 1990, she had consistently refused the
idea of a biography. Who would be interested?
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And so you are glad that Munni Kabir persisted through the hurdles of 'Memsaab baahargaaon gayi hai.'
From the beginning, where you learn that Waheeda, youngest of four daughters, was asthmatic, to where her father, Mohammed Abdur Rehman, an IAS officer, was castigated for 'allowing' his daughters to learn classical dance even though he was a 'good Muslim', the narrative is interesting. Waheeda is nothing but frank and forthright and, having agreed to talk, chronicles her entry into the big, bad world of films from her first appearance on screen.
And so we hear about how Rojulu Marayi
led to that epic meeting with Guru Dutt, and how that led to her move
to Bombay. How Akkineni Nageshwara Rao told her gently to face the
camera - 'You don't have a bad face.' How the Hindi film industry differed from the South in their way of working. How the song that made her famous - Eruvako sagaro ranno chinnannna - inspired
none other than SD Burman. How her insistence on retaining her own
name, and on inserting a clause about final veto over costumes did not
go down well with director Raj Khosla. (Waheeda comes across as
unusually courageous for one so young.) This is not the only time she
had a fight with him - a more serious one involved a scene in Solva Saal,
where she was given a chiffon sari and sleeveless blouse. When she
refused, because of the context of the scene required her to be 'lajwanti'
(shy), Raj Khosla erupted. And Waheeda swore never to work with him
again. (They eventually made up much later; as she puts it, they both
grew up.)
What is even better is the trivia that comes along in the stories' train - some known, others not as much. How Pyaasa was being written when C.I.D was being filmed. How the legendary Zohra Sehgal was the choreographer for Kahin pe nigaahein, kahin pe nishaana.
Why Waheeda wore a duppatta for that song. Why the Censor Board had
issues with the picturisation of the colour version of the title song of
Chaudhvin ka Chand. (They felt Waheeda's eyes were too red and sensual.) How Teesri Kasam was shot near Powai Lake. How Satyajit Ray had initially wanted to film Guide and wanted Waheeda to play Rosie.
How Dev refused to be called 'Devsaab', and how he was a decent flirt. How he had initially hated 'Aaj phir jeene ki tamanna hai' from Guide.
How Dilip Kumar was a gentle person with a lovely smile.
How Rajendra Kumar always cried in his films, and she once asked him, 'If you cry so much, Rajendraji, how will I cry?'
How it was difficult to understand what the legendary K. Asif wanted in a scene, because he spoke in monosyllables.
How Rehman was very protective of her.
How Lata Mangeshkar once told her 'The orchestra was there to give us singers a rest. Today we singers are there to give the orchestra a rest.'
How Manmohan Desai, when asked about some plot hole in Coolie, would tell her, 'Waheedaji, it's a Manmohan Desai movie - there is no logic. No truth, no reality.'
Or how Rishi Kapoor, having heard about Waheeda's cereal, asked her on the sets of Chandni: 'Arre, Waheedaji, you've started a serial? Where do you do the shooting?'
She
talks about the way films were made then, contrasting it with the way
they are now, and mentions her landmark films where she played atypical
characters. We learn that there were two characters that she would have
loved to have played - Radha in Mother India, and Suchitra Sen's role in Mamta. And how her dream role is that of Meryl Streep's in 'The Bridges of Madison County'. She
describes how difficult it was to maintain mood and emotion through the
numerous retakes, and how she much preferred her silent reaction shots
to ones where she had to speak.
No
book about Waheeda Rehman would be complete without a mention of Guru
Dutt. And she talks about her mentor and friend with affection, and
talks about her work with him in landmark films such as Pyaasa, Sahib Bibi aur Ghulam and Kaagaz ke Phool. She
talks about his trolley shots, and his squabbles with his camera-man VK
Murthy, how he listened to the opinion of even his valet (Waheeda had
questioned the placement of a song that had been picturised on her in Pyaasa),
how he was upset when she and Murthy nattered away in Tamil... she is
reticent about her personal relationship with him, but that doesn't feel
remiss considering the focus is on their professional collaborations.
She does set to rest one controversy, though - Abrar Alvi did direct Sahib Bibi aur Ghulam,
and Guru Dutt never came on the sets unless he was wanted for that
day's shooting, or Alvi wanted his input. He did, however, shoot the
songs.
Waheeda
is a very good storyteller. Along with her honesty that is apparent
when she talks about herself (how her work isn't very good when she does
not believe in her character or motivations, for instance), there is a
sense of humour that peeps through the narrative. The episode with Raj
Kapoor, for instance, while they were shooting Teesri Kasam. On
their way back from Bhopal, where they were shooting, the train was
stopped by the local students who had not been allowed to watch the
shooting. They wanted to see their favourite stars. Raj Kapoor was asked
to go and calm the crowd. After he spoke to them, they wanted to meet
Waheeda. Taking one look at the crowd, Raj refused. His refusal enraged
the crowd which attacked the train. Their insistence infuriated Raj
Kapoor so much that he wanted to open the compartment doors and confront
them. When the production team couldn't control him, they finally
pushed him into the ladies' compartment, where Waheeda, her sister
Sayeeda, and her hairdresser had to physically sit on him to stop him
from tackling the unruly crowd single-handedly.
She
talks about her parents and her sisters, her marriage (to co-star Shashi Rekhy), and her children, and life beyond cinema with
a forthrightness and honesty that is remarkable. So also is admirable
the way she tackled the vagaries of her life, and how she let herself go
grey, much to the shock of her friends and family.
It is these personal recollections and rare photographs that make the book interesting to the layman. Also on record
are her close friendships with other actresses - one that has withstood
the test of time - Nanda, Asha Parekh, Shammi, Helen, Sadhana. (The
launch of this book was postponed because Waheeda Rehman was so
overwrought when Nanda died.) Conversations with Waheeda Rehman reveals
a side of the reclusive actress, as much as she cares to reveal.
I won't say that I'm completely bowled over by the book. It could have been better. Munni Kabir's questions are sometimes longer than Waheeda's answers. But if you look it less as an 'interview' and more as the titular 'Conversations', it makes more sense. I do wish, however, that the conversations had been more in-depth, and that Munni Kabir had pushed a little to get more details. However, it does paint a picture of Waheeda as she was, and is, and it is a very likable picture indeed.
I won't say that I'm completely bowled over by the book. It could have been better. Munni Kabir's questions are sometimes longer than Waheeda's answers. But if you look it less as an 'interview' and more as the titular 'Conversations', it makes more sense. I do wish, however, that the conversations had been more in-depth, and that Munni Kabir had pushed a little to get more details. However, it does paint a picture of Waheeda as she was, and is, and it is a very likable picture indeed.
If
you're a fan of the actress, however, or even if not, this is a good
addition to your collection of movie lore for an insider's look at the
movie industry of the past.